Mu ntangiriro z’urukundo, abantu benshi baba bafite amatsiko yo kumenyana byihuse. Hari abagabo bumva ko kugira ngo bubake icyizere n’umubano ukomeye, bagomba guhita babwira umugore ibintu byose bibareba. Nyamara abahanga mu mibanire bavuga ko hari amakuru amwe n’amwe akwiriye gutangwa buhoro buhoro uko icyizere kigenda cyiyongera.
Bavuga ko umubano uramba utubakwa n’amagambo menshi avuzwe ku munsi wa mbere, ahubwo wubakwa n’igihe, ibikorwa ndetse no kumenyana gahoro gahoro.
1. Imiterere Yawe Yose y’Ubukungu
Amafaranga ni kimwe mu bintu bikomeye bishobora kugira ingaruka ku mibanire. Hari abagabo bihutira kubwira abagore amafaranga binjiza, imyenda babereyemo abandi cyangwa umutungo bafite.
Nubwo kuba inyangamugayo ari byiza, gutanga ayo makuru hakiri kare bishobora gutuma umuntu agucira urubanza atarakumenya neza. Hari n’ubwo bishobora gukurura abantu bakwitaho kubera ibyo utunze aho kukwitaho nk’umuntu.
Abajyanama mu mibanire bavuga ko iby’ubukungu bikwiye kuganirwaho uko umubano ugenda ukura kandi abantu bamaze kubakana icyizere.
2. Amateka Yawe Yose Yababaje
Buri muntu agira inkuru yihariye yanyuzemo. Hari abahuye n’ubukene, abandi bagacibwa intege n’urukundo rwabananiye cyangwa ibibazo byo mu muryango.
Ariko guhita ushyira imbere amateka yose y’ubuzima bwawe ukimenyana n’umuntu bishobora kumuremerera mu mutwe. Ahanini intangiriro z’umubano ziba zigamije kwishimira kumenyana no kubaka ibyishimo, aho kuba igihe cyo gusubiramo ibikomere byose byo mu bihe byashize.
Iyo icyizere kimaze gushinga imizi, gusangira ayo mateka bikorwa mu buryo bworoshye kandi bikarushaho gutuma abantu begerana.
3. Amasezerano Akomeye Y’Ejo Hazaza
Hari abagabo bahita babwira umugore amagambo nka “ni wowe nzarongora” cyangwa “sinzigera nkubabaza” mu minsi mike bamaze kumenyana.
Nubwo ayo magambo ashobora guturuka ku byiyumvo byiza, rimwe na rimwe atuma umuntu agaragara nk’uwihuse cyangwa uvuga ibyo ataratekerezaho bihagije.
Abahanga bavuga ko urukundo nyarwo rutagaragarira gusa mu magambo, ahubwo rugaragarira mu bikorwa bya buri munsi, kubahana no gukomeza kuba indahemuka uko igihe kigenda gihita.
Kubaka umubano mwiza bisaba igihe. Kumenyana gahoro gahoro biha buri wese umwanya wo kwerekana uwo ari we by’ukuri no gusobanukirwa undi.
Aho kwihutira kuvuga ibintu byose icyarimwe, abagabo basabwa kwemera ko icyizere n’urukundo birushaho gukomera iyo bikura buhoro buhoro. Iyo umuntu akwiriye, azagukunda kubera uwo uri we, atari kubera ibyo wamubwiye ku munsi wa mbere.
