Mu gihe cyose abantu bagiye bakunda gushyira imbere imiterere y’umubiri mu gukundana, ntihabuze amagambo avugwa ku burebure bw’abakunzi. Kuri bamwe, kugira umusore muremure bifatwa nk’ikimenyetso cy’ubwiza cyangwa ubushobozi, ariko ubushakashatsi n’ibitekerezo by’abahanga bwerekana ko gukundana n’umusore mugufi nabyo bifite ibyiza byinshi bikwiye kwitabwaho.
Urukundo rutagamije imiterere y’inyuma
Ubushakashatsi bwakozwe n’impuguke za sosiyoloji muri Kaminuza ya New York (NYU) bwerekanye ko abagabo bagufi bakunze kugira imibanire irambye kurusha abandi. Abo basore bakunda gushingira ku byo batekereza n’ibyiyumvo aho kwitwikira imiterere y’umubiri. Ibi bituma urukundo rwabo rwubakwa ku mutima aho kuba ku gihagararo.
Icyizere n’ubwitange mu rukundo
Inyandiko zitandukanye zigaragaza ko abasore bagufi bagira icyizere cyo kumenya ibyo bashaka, kandi bakarangwa no kwitanga mu rukundo. Urubuga YourTango ruvuga ko abasore bagufi b’abahungu b’abanyamahoro kandi badakunda kwiyibagiza inshingano. Iyo babonye umukunzi ubaha agaciro, bamugaragariza urukundo rukomeye kandi rudajegajega.
Imibereho irambye mu muryango
Ikinyamakuru Women’s Health cyagaragaje ko abasore bagufi bafite amahirwe make yo gutandukana (divorce) ugereranyije n’abarebare. Ubushakashatsi bwa NYU bwanemeje ko akenshi aba bagabo bakora cyane mu mirimo y’urugo, bigatuma barushaho kugira uruhare mu buzima bw’umuryango.
Gukunda gukora no kugira intego
Benshi mu basore bagufi bagira umuhate mu byo bakora, bakifuza kwerekana ko ubuhagarike atari bwo bugena agaciro k’umuntu. Uru rugero rw’imbaraga n’umurava rutuma mu rukundo baba abantu bizerwa kandi bafite icyerekezo.
Uburyohe bw’umwihariko
Ku bakobwa bakundana n’umusore mugufi, hari uburyohe bwihariye bwo kumva ko bahisemo urukundo rufite ishingiro aho guhatirwa kugendera ku bitekerezo bya rubanda. Ikinyamakuru Glamour kivuga ko gukundana n’umusore mugufi bishobora gutuma umukobwa yisanzura kurushaho, ndetse bikamutera kwiyumva nk’umwamikazi, cyane cyane iyo abaye ari we muremure kurusha uwo bakundana.
Ibyo byose bigaragaza ko uburebure atari bwo bugena ubuziranenge bw’urukundo. Kuri benshi, gukundana n’umusore mugufi bishobora kuzana ibyishimo, umutekano ndetse n’urukundo rufite imizi. Abahanga n’abanditsi batandukanye bemeza ko gukuraho imyumvire yo gushingira ku gihagararo ari intambwe ikomeye mu kubona urukundo nyarwo, rushingiye ku mutima n’ubumuntu.
