Kugereka akaguru ku kandi ni imyitwarire abantu benshi bakunze kugira iyo bicaye, ariko ku bagore, bikunze kurenza kuba uburyo bwo kwicara bisanzwe. Ni igikorwa gikunze gufatwa nk’ubutumwa bunyujijwe mu bimenyetso kandi gifite igisobanuro kijyanye n’uko umuntu yumva ameze, uko yifata, ndetse n’imico imurimo.
Imvano n’Amateka
Mu gihe cyashize, cyane cyane mu kinyejana cya 19 no mu ntangiriro z’icya 20, abagore bagombaga kwicara neza, amaguru yabo yegeranye bikaba nk’ikimenyetso cy’ubupfura n’imyitwarire iboneye. Kugereka akaguru ku kandi byafatwaga nko kutiyubaha mu ruhame.
Nyuma y’icyo gihe, ibyamamare nka Audrey Hepburn na Jacqueline Kennedy byagaragaye kenshi byicaye mu buryo bw’igikundiro bageretse akaguru ku kandi. Ubu buryo bwo kwicara bwaje gufatwa nk’ikirango cy’ubwitonzi, icyubahiro, ndetse no kwigirira icyizere mu ruhame.
1. Ubutumwa umubiri utanga
Nk’uko abahanga mu mitekerereze babivuga, amaguru n’ibirenge biragoye kubigenzura nk’uko umuntu agenzura amaso cyangwa ibiganza. Ibi bivuze ko uko umuntu agereka akaguru ku kandi bishobora kugaragaza:
Kwitekerezaho no kwihagararaho: Kugereka akaguru ku kandi bishobora kugaragaza ko umuntu yiyumvamo icyizere cyangwa agerageza kwihagararaho mu biganiro cyangwa mu ruhame.
Kwirwanaho cyangwa kwigunga: Iyo umuntu ageretse akaguru ku kandi akarambika amaboko hejuru, bishobora gusobanura ko yumva akeneye kwirinda cyangwa atisanzuye mu kiganiro.
Katia Loisel, impuguke mu myitwarire, avuga ko n’icyerekezo akaguru kagerekerwaho gafite icyo kavuze:
Akaguru kageretse gahindukiye kagana ku muntu: bishobora gusobanura ko umuntu amwiyumvamo cyangwa amwumva.
Iyo kagana hakurya ye: ashobora kuba yumva nta bwisanzure cyangwa adashaka kujya mu biganiro.
2. Uburyo bwo kwisanzura cyangwa kwinezeza
Mu buryo bw’umubiri, bamwe barekera akaguru ku kandi nk’uburyo bwo kugabanya umunaniro cyangwa kumva bisanzuye mu mwanya bicayeho igihe kirekire. Ibi biba cyane cyane mu nama, mu biro, cyangwa no mu ngo.
Kenshi, iyo umuntu yicaye muri ubwo buryo aguma acecetse, biba nk’uburyo bwo kwiyumvamo ituze cyangwa kwerekana ko akeneye umwanya we bwite.
3. Uko bifatwa mu rwego rw’Imico n’Umuryango
Mu miryango imwe: kugereka akaguru ku kandi bishobora gufatwa nk’uburangare cyangwa ikimenyetso cy’ubwibone.
Mu mico ya none: bitewe n’uko umuco wahindutse, iyi myitwarire ntigifite igisobanuro kimwe hose. Ahenshi, iboneka nk’uburyo busanzwe bwo kwicara burimo ubwitonzi.
Ahantu hatandukanye n’icyo bivuze
Mu biro: bishobora gufatwa nk’uburyo bwo kwerekana ubuhanga cyangwa icyizere, ariko nanone iyo bikorwa nabi cyangwa kenshi bifatwa nk’uburangare cyangwa kutubaha ibiganiro.
Mu birori cyangwa ahantu hasanzwe: ni ikimenyetso cy’uko umuntu yisanzuye. Iyo bikozwe mu buryo burimo umuco n’ubupfura, bikagaragaza ko umuntu yumva atekanye aho ari.
Mu rukundo cyangwa ibiganiro byihariye: iyo umugore ageretse akaguru ku kandi akareba uwo bari kumwe mu maso, bishobora kugaragaza ubushake bwo kumwitaho cyangwa kugirana ubusabane.
Nubwo bamwe bafata kugereka akaguru ku kandi nk’ikimenyetso cy’ubwirasi cyangwa kwirata, si ko buri gihe biba bivuze ibyo. Iyi myitwarire y’umubiri ifite ibisobanuro bijyanye n’umuco, uko umuntu yarezwe kuva mu buto, n’aho yarerewe.
Kwiga gusoma neza imvugo y’umubiri bigufasha kumva neza abandi, kwirinda guca imanza zihuse, no gusabana mu bwubahane.
